You might notice this book in my recently acquired items, and I thought I'd say a bit more about it before you think I plan to get rid of my lovely husband.
Here I was in the airport, waiting for our delayed flight to bring up a new departure time, I was roaming WHSmith, when this bright pink cover-book caught my eye, I approached the shelf and kneeled down to reach this well hidden book. The title, How to Kill Your Husband (and other useful household tips) made me giggle and I felt instantly the blood rushing to my cheeks in embarrassment that people may think I need a crash course on how to kill my dear husband. I placed the book back in its hidden spot and after walking away, quickly walked back, grabbed the book, handed over the money over the counter and hid the book in my bag. (Nah, my weird behaviour did not arouse any more suspicion than that).
The book was not as funny as I thought it would be. It however did make me very angry at the male gender. It opened my eyes on how submissive we are, on how men can manipulate situations and circumstances until their women look like awful nags while they still look like the good guy, may it be in the eyes of the parents, the children, the neighbours, their peers. So much anger, so little time. I did not particularly want to kill my husband after reading this book but I did want to kill any of the husbands mentioned in the book.
The first one, a PC, a dedicated house wife, sleeps around with every pretty young thing except his wife; but says that it helps their relationship; and threatens his wife with divorce when she meets another man.
The second one, another PC, convinces his wife to never have kids, only to empregnate a younger woman and move in with her.
The third one, a Shrek, doesn't help one bit, lets his wife run around like a headless chicken, and finally leaves her for a woman who doesn't nag but he helps her!!!
I finished that book a few weeks ago and it took me a while to recover from this much hatered. I know it is just a book and does not reflect the entire male population, but I get involved very easily.
What I realised from this book, that upset me:
1) We let men have the upper hand all the time, because of their over-sized egos.
2) We let men get away with being slobs, because they don't care living in a pig sty and think that if we want to live in a pleasant environment then it's out problem.
3) If you have children, never rely on your partner to ever help, you gave birth you're responsible.
4) Because they know deep inside that they are frauds, they have to constantly put women down to make them feel better, stronger, smarter.
I constantly praise hubby how cool and smart he is, (yes, Darling you are), sometimes I wonder how much I need to fool myself, staying focussed on his qualities? But then again, if being a fool is the key to my happiness, I must be smarter than I think.
To the men reading this post. I know, like Hammer raising his kids and Zombie Slayer seemingly down to earth r my hubby, that you help and love your wives in your own ways but promise me to never disrespect your wife, never make a fool out of her, because she's a whole lot smarter than you will ever give her credit for. I think men can never appreciate women enough and the men who do... well you've seen my previous post.
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